In New Jersey there are 13 grounds for divorce. In New York there are seven grounds for divorce. But both in New York and New Jersey we have something that seems to sound like irreconcilable differences. In New York we call it the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. It is very difficult to oppose a divorce based on the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage or irreconcilable differences. You can do it, but it will be very, very expensive and often not worth the money, effort or time.