Goldhamer's Ten Commandments of Matrimonial Law

Matrimonial cases are always harrowing. If you take two ordinary people who at one time were in love, but at least one of which now is not… sprinkle in a custody or visitation dispute, the possible forced sale of a home, and the imposed equitable distribution of bank accounts, pensions, all investments and businesses, and salt in some accounting and legal fees, you have the makings of a very hot stew...one that no one wants to be in!

KGG's matrimonial department has four lawyers working full-time to resolve your matrimonial problems. Paul B. Goldhamer brings more than thirty-five years of experience to the table to help make your negotiations run smoothly and fairly, and should negotiations fail, we have the skill to take your adversary to court with an expertise developed through many years of courtroom experience.

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GOLDHAMER'S TEN COMMANDMENTS OF MATRIMONIAL LAW

1. DON’T TAKE YOUR DIVORCE PERSONALLY… IT’S GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.
2. THE SOONER YOU LOOK AT YOUR DIVORCE AS A BUSINESS CONTRACT… THE BETTER OFF YOU WILL BE.
3. YOUR MATRIMONIAL AGREEMENT IS NOTHING MORE AND NOTHING LESS THAN THE LARGEST FINANCIAL CONTRACT YOU WILL EVER MAKE.
4. THE ONE WHO WANTS OUT THE MOST PAYS FOR IT.
5. NO ONE GOES ANYWHERE UNLESS THEY HAVE SOMEPLACE TO GO.
6. ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER; MORE ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART FORGET.
7. PROBLEMS WILL DISSOLVE IF YOU JUST DO WHAT YOU MUST DO.
8. GET THE BEST HELP YOUR MONEY CAN BUY.
9. IGNORE EVERYTHING YOUR FRIENDS AND RELATIVES TELL YOU. LISTEN TO YOUR LAWYER. IF YOUR FRIENDS AND RELATIVES TELL YOU IT’S TOO HARD, GET NEW FRIENDS AND RELATIVES.
10. THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE JUDGMENT.

Grounds For Divorce in New York
The grounds for divorce in the State of NEW YORK are:

1. Abandonment (for a period of one or more years):
   a. Constructive Abandonment = refusal of spouse to have sexual relations
   b. Actual Abandonment = spouse has left home
2. Confinement of your spouse to prison for a period of three or more consecutive years or a mental institution for five years beginning after the marriage;
3. Adultery - voluntary sexual intercourse with a person other than your spouse;
4. Living separate and apart for one year or more pursuant to a judgment or decree of separation or a written separation agreement after proof has been made that all terms have been substantially complied with;
5. Cruel and inhuman treatment in which the conduct of the wrongdoing spouse endangers the physical or mental well being of the other spouse and makes it unsafe or improper for the parties to reside together.
6. The relationship between husband and wife has broken down irretrievably for a period of at least six months, provided that one party has so stated under oath.

Grounds For Divorce In New Jersey
The grounds for divorce in the State of NEW JERSEY are:

1. Desertion (for a period of one or more years):
   a. Constructive = refusal of spouse to have sexual relations
   b. Actual Desertion= spouse left home
2. Confinement of your spouse to prison for a period of eighteen or more consecutive months or in a mental institution for twenty four or more months beginning after the marriage;
3. Adultery - voluntary sexual intercourse with a person other than your spouse;
4. Living separate and apart for eighteen months with no reasonable chance for reconciliation;
5. Habitual drunkenness [or drug use] for 12 or more months after the beginning of the marriage;
6. Deviant sexual conduct without the consent of the spouse;
7. Extreme cruelty - conduct of the wrongdoing spouse endangers the physical or mental well being of the other spouse and makes it unsafe or improper for the parties to reside together;
8. Irreconcilable differences

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